Are Lexi & Rae Still Together From The Ultimatum Queer Love? After The Finale
Warning: This contains spoilers for The Ultimatum: Queer Love. They were one of the few couples to get engaged at the finale, but there were still some issues that needed to be sorted out once the cameras stopped rolling, so are Lexi and Rae still together from The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
The show’s creator, Chris Coelen—the brain behind Love Is Blind and Married at First Sight—spoke to Variety in July 2022 about the series’ premise saying, “What’s fascinating is when you actually look at the reasons that people give for not being ready, there are a multitude of reasons: ‘I come from a family background of bad relationships. I don’t want to repeat my past’ or ‘I’m not ready, I’m too young’ or ‘I need to be financially stable. There may be some validity to some of those reasons, but the real reason is that they’re not sure that they want to marry this person that they’re with. Most of those things that they say are our excuses, and it’s very common.”
Lexi and Rae met on Bumble and hit it off pretty quickly after one fateful night in West Hollywood, California. Lexi recalled that Rae called her as a booty call and described herself as a “boob girl”. But are Lexi and Rae still together?
Are Lexi and Rae still together from The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
While they were one of the two of five couples that ended up getting engaged at the season finale of The Ultimatum, Lexi and Rae are not still together. Per the rules of The Ultimatum, Rae and Lexi had to break up, date their other cast members for a week, and then decide who they want to participate in a “trial marriage” for three weeks. They’d then move back in with one another for an additional three weeks and at the conclusion, decide whether they want to leave the show engaged to each other, engaged to someone else, or leave single.
When the reunion episode began, host JoAnna Garcia Swisher checked in with the fiancées to see how their relationships were going. “The last year has been amazing. Proposal, vacations, we moved back to California a few months ago,” Lexi said. “It wholeheartedly has been the best year of my life.” But during the final seconds of the reunion episode, a text card appeared saying, “Shortly after filming the reunion, Lexi and Rae chose to end their relationship. The wedding has been called off.”
Speaking with TODAY.com, Lexi explained: “We probably spent like another month trying to work through some stuff that we just had maybe not gotten through as much as we thought we had (during) the experience,” she said. “Things that just kept coming up for us.” She continued: “Just trust that was broken at that point that we couldn’t mend. It was a lot of fighting for it. It was a lot of, I think, partly pride of wanting to say that we kept pushing.”
It sounds like Lexi was apprehensive about proposing in the first place because there was a “looming cloud” over “what a failed engagement” would mean. “It weighed heavy on me,” she continues. “And especially with somebody I really was trying to make every moment work with. So it was painful. It was sad. There was hurt there on both ends. Not towards each other, but just hurt because of the loss of that relationship.”
While their relationship is no more, the couple split as amicably as possible. “I still care for her,” Lexi said. “I love her. I wish her nothing but the best. But I’m happy we figured out that we weren’t necessarily right for each other.”
During her interview with StyleCaster in May 2023, Lexi touched on those trust issues, including how Rae ended up sleeping with her trial wife (and the show’s villain), Vanessa. “Somebody asked me the other day if Rae and I had a pact. We fully supported each other to explore our trial marriages to the fullest. I think what ultimately struck a nerve for me is that when I deal with people—and relationships in general—your character is of the utmost importance,” Lexi said. “So that became such a big nerve. For me, it was like, ‘It’s not that you slept with someone.’ If it was Mal, sure, it would’ve bothered me but I’m also like, ‘Mal’s the greatest, what am I going to do about that?’ But it’s the person you chose, a person whose character continuously came into question.”
Lexi told StyleCaster she has no regrets about appearing on the show. “I truly think everything I did was exactly how it was supposed to happen. If I could have done one thing differently, I would have stayed living with Mal for three more weeks,” she said. “That’s just because leaving was so, so sad. I just loved living with her. So I think beyond that, I truly think I handled everything exactly how I would have liked to and I’m really proud of it watching it back.”
And she still wants to get married someday. “I still want to get married, still want to spend my life with somebody. But I do think that it’s important to take time to look at why you want to get married and take that into consideration,” she said. “This structured and stringent role of what we’re supposed to do and when we’re supposed to do it, I think did change for me. … Listen to yourself, follow your heart, and listen to what you’re thinking, because ultimately, I think it’ll help you reach the right conclusions.”
According to Netflix’s Tudum, Lexi has found love with someone new. “I found somebody that gives me all of the love and happiness I felt with Mal, mixed with an intimacy that we’re exploring,” she said. “That’s truly what I always wanted when I knew my relationship with Rae was ending — somebody that made me feel the way I felt when I was with Mal and we were walking around San Diego calling each other our wives.” Cute!
Meanwhile, Rae is single and still living in Orange County, CA, but according to Tudum, she’s looking to move to Los Angeles, where she hopes to find a new community and perhaps a soulmate one day. “I just feel like I’m a better partner and a better person,” she says. “I feel the most secure and confident I’ve ever felt. I don’t need someone else right now, which is the perfect place to be when you do eventually want to be with someone.”
Who is Rae in The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
Rae is a software engineer who met Lexi on Bumble. The two hit it off pretty quickly after one fateful night in West Hollywood, California. Lexi recalled that Rae called her as a booty call and described her as a “boob girl” in an introduction video of the couple. They have been inseparable ever since, but at the beginning, Lexi wanted to marry ASAP and hinted that her family wants to be involved in the wedding. She was paired up with Vanessa during the duration of the show.
Who is Lexi in The Ultimatum: Queer Love?
Lexi is a model who met Rae on the dating app Bumble. She’s the youngest of The Ultimatum: Queer Love and at the beginning of the show, she and Raelyn are “ready 130%” to marry together. Though she wanted to head to the altar at a more faster pace than Rae. She’s paired with Mal during the duration of the show.
Who is The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s host?
Who is The Ultimatum: Queer Love‘s host? The Ultimatum: Queer Love’s host is JoAnna Garcia Swisher. It was a pivot from having reality show veterans Nick and Vanessa Lachey hosting the new iteration of The Ultimatum. Creator Chirs Coelhen talked to Variety about why Netflix chose a straight woman to host the show. “I think was a good idea to have a different person. I think one of the big takeaways for me about this, or any of these shows that we do, is that we’re all human beings. I don’t think that you have to be completely aligned, identity-wise with someone, to be able to empathize with them, to be able to care about them, to be able to ask them questions, to be able to relate to them.”
He continued, “For people who feel like, ‘Oh, I’m a straight person, I might not relate to the stories on this show,’ they are wildly mistaken. I would urge you to watch the show. I’m a straight person — I don’t think that has anything to do with being able to tell the story. At the end of the day, I’m dedicated to telling the story and understanding the people whose stories that we’re telling. We certainly have a tremendous amount of diversity and representation behind the camera, as well as on camera, but ultimately, all of us together in this boat are human beings, figuring out the questions in our lives, trying to tell the stories of these amazing participants. I put Joanna in that category as well.”
On if her sexuality affected the show while she was hosting, Swisher told Elite Daily that “It didn’t really come up.” She continued, “It was what it was. It didn’t feel like that was really a part of the process.”
“Obviously, there are so many special nuances and complexities to queer relationships, which I think are really important to highlight and celebrate and shine light on,” Swisher said. “It’s a huge reason why this show is so special and so important. I was just so happy to be a part of it.”
I”The job itself, as a host, was a new one for me, but it was so exciting, and I was so proud to be a part of a show that celebrates queer relationships,” she also told POPSUGAR. “It really opens up the door to look a little bit deeper into the dynamics of queer relationships, as well as the challenges.”
“At the heart of it, there’s just so much love between the people that participated in the show, and it was just really amazing to see how vulnerable they were, and how willing they were to go there and experience the task at hand,” she says. “. It was just really amazing to see them go through this process.”
Though, she admitted that she didn’t spend that much time with the contestants. “I wanted to spend more time with all the people that were a part of the show. I feel like I got to know them so intimately just watching their stories unfold, but I didn’t get to gab it up with them as much as I wanted to,” she says, noting that fortunately, “at the end I got to spend a little bit more time with them.” Ultimately, though, she saw her hosting role as a supportive position. “I was just there to help drive the experiment along and the process along, and it was really just amazing to see how it all ended up,” she said.
Where is The Ultimatum: Queer Love filmed?
Where is The Ultimatum: Queer Love filmed? The Ultimatum: Queer Love was filmed in San Diego, California. In comparison to the first iteration of the show The Ultimatum: Marry of Move On (which was filmed in Austin, Texas), a majority of the contestants were not from the area such as Xander and Vanessa who are from Hawaii, and Mal and Yoly from Chicago.
A couple of known San Diego locations were used during filming. Episodes 1 to 4 used the Coronado Island Marriott Resort & Spa and frequently featured restaurants at the Gaslamp Quarter and various beaches throughout the city.
The Ultimatum: Queer Love is available to stream on Netflix.
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